What makes someone a hater

In turn, this conditions us into even further dislike of that person, which just validates our negative feelings. In this way, our distaste for another person becomes like a snake eating its tail: we dislike them because they make us feel bad, and we feel bad because we dislike them. They notice our rudeness toward them and often respond with rudeness, confirming our negative thoughts about that person. How do you define a hater?

List qualities of a friend. Look at that list. Haters won't possess the qualities you seek out in people. Sometimes we have friends that are constantly tearing us apart -- no constructive criticism, just negativity.

Make that list, see if these so-called friends have any of the qualities you'd want a friend to have. Sometimes we confuse people who are around us, as friends. Friends don't hate, they honestly critique. Check yourself, don't surround yourself with haters. Sometimes you hear people say, "You either hate me or you love me. Love and hate are more closely connected than we think, there just different sides of the same coin. When someone hates you they still deeply care about you.

When you are doing good work, someone will love it, not everyone, but someone will. You gotta worry when no one cares enough to pay attention to you.

When people don't love or hate you -- when people don't care enough to feel any way about you and what you are doing -- that's when you worry. Hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is. Everyone called Kanye a hater for that rant. You are already wasting too much energy trying to dig up dirt just to uplift your spirits. A hater likes to bask in the flaws of others just to quell his own insecurities. If you don't earn as much as the person you are hating on, then you just need to stop.

Why are you wasting your time hating when you should be grinding? If you have time to hate, then you have time to put your God-given skills to work and earn yourself a living. It's no one else's fault but your own if you choose to devote your efforts to something that isn't productive. No one makes a living off hating. There is a difference between constructive criticism and hating. A hater will never give constructive criticism because it is a way of making someone else better. The only reason haters would ever point out your flaws is because they want the other person to feel doubtful about what they are doing.

That is why you should never let the comments of haters get to you because all they really want to do is bring you down to their level. Showing more concern for another person's success than your own proves that you're a hater. There is no other way to put it. Why would you be spending so much effort worrying about what someone else is doing just because you couldn't do the same. Like every day after you get rid of haters success just falls in your lap. Haters have been busy. So they spend a LOT of time trying to think of passive or passive-aggressive ways to harm you.

But this is a good thing, because the minute they are out of your lives, all of these BETTER relationships suddenly sprout up. A repeated pattern of whatever behavior you discover.

Haters deserve mercy and love and forgiveness. That only hurts the nurse. If you fight with them, you validate their false sense of victimhood or further hatred. They need love, and help, though ideally, from someone else, and hopefully, far, far away. Haters of a feather flock together. Haters need support to sustain the justification for their behavior, lack of character, and just the really sad fact that they have engaged in hating.

But those people are either also being deceived, or, more likely, enjoy the hating. They may even like the fact that they can support the hating without actually getting their own hands dirty. In time, they may discover that they were deceived or were wrong, but you have to let them go just like the haters. This is how some people feel that they have to be in order to make their way in the world, especially when it comes to money.

Every leader has a bucket full of tears they have cried over the things that haters do. Let it hurt. No, let that pain be open. Over time, the hate takes them over. You can let them have their hate.

It challenges people to produce and grow and create. You created the hate. Look, light cannot exist without darkness. Test me on this.

Let the haters tell you what to do. The best thing you can do is dialogue with them on paper or in your own mind and ask them what you should do. They might tell you to clean up your act. Haters make you into the leader you want to be. So prepare: there will likely be more. Haters, and their support networks, are trapped in shame.

You will almost always find a childhood rife with shame or shaming. Hating is usually an attempt by those riddled with shame to publicly shame someone else.